Kiddy fan here.
Have to say dino that your original posting is somewhat OTT. I was sat close to the incident and i find it very hard to see how you could "hear" what was said in front of our biggest crowd for years.
My take on the incident is that Smith was penalised for a foul on Matt. He voiced his displeasure at Matt and Matt started laughing it off and made gestures to Smith about mouthing off. Mcphee then said something to Smith who then stupidly elbowed Mcphee in the face. Credit to Mcphee who didn't make a meal of it, but it happened right in front of the referee and i believe that is what Smith was, quite rightly, red carded for.
After he was dismissed, Smith was then walking past Matt and head butted him. Again, credit to Matt for not going down, but whether anything was said is open to debate. In my opinion, assumptions are being made here on the basis that three or four Altrincham players were trying to pacify Matt after the incident and again immediately after the game. I don't see how the referee could hear it from where he was, but he did see the head butt incident and could file that in his match report. That could lead to an additional three to five game ban on top of the three for the first incident. Whilst no one can condone CLEAR racial abuse, this incident has too much ifs and buts (if you excuse the pun !) and the fact that no reference has been made to it at Kidderminster suggests it is getting blown out of proportion on here.
With regards to the match itself, i think you can count yourselves unlucky with the first sending off and penalty award. Justice was done in us missing the penalty and a red card it definately wasn't. This incident seemed to unsettle us more in the second half and you can consider yourselves unlucky to have left without a point. Best of luck for the rest of the season, i think the signings of Young and Dobson should help in your battle to stay up. On Saturday's performance, i'm sure there are four worse teams in our league.